WHEN someone says, “Wives belong at home with the children,” many people, especially ideological feminists and liberal journalists, go ballistic over the sexism they see directed at women.
What they don’t realize — because they’ve trained themselves to ignore men’s side to the gender coin (see my blog’s “About the Author“) and are hence blind to anti-male sexism — is that “Wives belong at home with the children” means the husband belongs away from home without the children. It means he must leave the home and the people he loves and go to a workplace where he is often surrounded by, as CBSNews.com columnist Steve Tobak puts it, “sniper employees ready to shoot you in the back the minute you turn around” because they aim to look good by making you look bad. He must do this to raise an income so that she can stay at home to raise the children. (And so that she can enjoy the children’s love and adorableness even as she sacrifices to tend to their needs; he sacrifices, too, but I’ve never heard a man talk about his cut-throat-competitive sniper co-workers’ and bosses’ love and adorableness.)
“Wives belong at home with the children” means keeping him in his “place” every bit as much as it means keeping her in her “place.”
And, I think, it masks the truth that women believe husbands belong at work away from the children as much as men believe wives belong at home with the children. Sadly, I suspect even many of the feminists who denounce “Wives belong at home with the children” believe husbands’ “place” is at work away from the children!
So when people say, “Women belong at home with the children,” the statement’s sexism, which feminists and the mainstream media see as applying only to women, is in fact two-way and equally hurtful — or helpful, depending on your ideology — to both sexes.
Sharp-eyed writers expert in publishing styles may have noticed my title was encased in quotation marks, meaning I was quoting someone. Their suspicion may have been aroused.
Can you spot the blind sexism in this excerpt at National Geographic:
In the U.S., women live longer—81 years on average, 76 for men—but a recent study by the Institute for Health Metrics and Evaluation reveals a troubling trend. Though men’s life spans have increased by 4.6 years since 1989, women have gained only 2.7 years, perhaps because a larger percentage of women have lacked adequate treatment for high blood pressure and cholesterol. “This is a wake-up call,” says study co-author Ali Mokdad.
For other examples of how men are overlooked in feminists’ and the media’s portrayals of women as victims, please read:
No one does anything without a pay-off, real or perceived, immediate or later.