“…[M]en in lower income brackets are doing horrifically. They’ve just fallen off the cliff over the last 30 years or so.” –More at the RealNews.com
“The media is very, very sour on men these days.” -Kay Hymowitz, Fox & Friends, Feb. 20, ’13. These days? Try the last 30 years!
Hanna Rosin, author of The End of Men, “may also overestimate women’s flexibility when it comes to men and male roles—even though she herself notes signs of such inflexibility. Lower-middle-class women tend to reject low-earning men as poor marriage material; high-earning women married to non-alpha males often end up resenting or despising their husbands. (Rosin’s chapter on female violence even includes a frightening example of such resentment escalating into abuse and then murder. Ironically, the woman’s defense tried to portray her as an abused wife unbearably stressed by her husband’s failings as a man.) Rosin herself admits being ‘startled’ by the sight of a stay-at-home dad volunteering at her preschool. Perhaps the truth is not just that women are more flexible, but that both women and men are more flexible about norms of femininity than norms of masculinity.” –More by Cathy Young at Reason.com
As with all other issues pertaining to the male-female dynamic, The New York Times still frames dating and courting from a males-are-to-blame viewpoint. It’s so blind to its antimale sexism, it contradicts itself in Alex Williams’ piece “The End of Courtship?” Consider these two statements penned by Williams:
“Income equality, or superiority, for women muddles the old, male-dominated dating structure.”
“Even in an era of ingrained ambivalence about gender roles, however, some women keep the old dating traditions alive by refusing to accept anything less.”
Male-dominated dating structure? The first statement is to say men controlled things in the traditional courting arena. But the second shows clearly that any woman can control whatever arrangement she prefers. Not recognizing this contradiction suggests The Times and its writers remain blind to their bias against men. For another example of this blindness, see “Wives Belong at Home with the Kids.”
“The number of testicular cancer cases continues to climb slowly but steadily in the United States, according to new research. While the cancer is still most common among white males, the greatest increase is among Hispanic men, according to Dr. Scott Eggener, an associate professor of surgery at the University of Chicago. Eggener tracked the statistics on testicular cancer from 1992 through 2009, looking at data from a nationwide epidemiology database.” –More at WebMD.com…
AMC TV’s popular “The Killing” would be more honest if it were titled “The Killing of Young Women.” It’s previous season told the story of the murder of one young woman. This year there are at least 17 young women who turn up as homicides. There’s a reason that virtually all fictional crime shows feature only the murder of women: Society has less compassion for males than for females. Thus, if in “The Killing” the homicide victims were young men, the show would be unable to generate and sustain the emotional involvement of its viewers. This “compassion gap” stands as one of the chief barriers to equal treatment of the sexes. See the next item, by Walter Williams.
“The liberal world vision and reality are often at variance, for example, with equal pay for equal work. I’ve often watched ‘Lockup,’ a show that features California supermax prisons, including Pelican Bay and Corcoran. Often, a recalcitrant prisoner must be extracted from his cell through brute force. I’ve never seen female guards remove a prisoner. If they are part of the process at all, it’s to videotape the extraction for legal purposes. It’s my bet that female guards receive the same salaries as male guards while not having to risk injury. Along the same lines, women on aircraft carriers earn as much as their male counterparts, but I have yet to see women hefting a hernia bar to attach a 500- or 1,000-pound bomb to a fighter jet wing. All of this suggests that liberals are for equal pay for unequal work. Or could it be sex discrimination whereby equally qualified women are denied the opportunity to extract beastly inmates from their cells and load heavy bombs on fighter planes?” –Economist Walter Williams
“A new study showed that women’s heart disease risk was not affected by menopause…” the DailyRx
Between 1999 and 2010: “The suicide rate for men in their 50’s has risen by 50 percent, to nearly 30 suicides per 100,000. The suicide rate for middle-aged women is just over eight deaths per 100,000.” –Dr. Mercola, May 16, 2013
“America has become anti-male. Men are sensing the backlash and are consciously and unconsciously going on strike. They are dropping out of college, leaving the workforce, and avoiding marriage and fatherhood at alarming rates.” -More at DailyMail.co.uk, a quote from the book Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream – and Why It Matters
“Boys are now among the most challenging groups with whom we work as psychotherapists. During the past two decades, boyhood has received special attention, and with good reason: boyhood is being radically redefined. As a result, the number of vulnerable boys who require our attention and care has increased significantly. Some of them are just entering kindergarten; others are graduating from high school or college and maneuvering their way in a world of work that has increasingly fewer places for them; a decreasing number are in graduate school. Ever more are disconnected, disaffiliated and adrift. We witness a group who often make the astonishing claim that they do not feel welcome among us. Some do not articulate it this way, but they indicate it in their actions. Especially disturbing, we see more and more boys who by age fifteen have lost the kinetic playfulness and saying-by-doing typical of boys and young males. Many wander on in an odd, constricting, dimmed-down atmosphere that engulfs them for another decade. We often find that, no matter how long our reach, we cannot touch them.” -More at Contemporay Psychotherpy
Men in the world of children:
Letter to the editor USA Today June 14, 2013
The article about Sheryl Sandberg’s book “Lean In” describes the Facebook executive’s ongoing focus on supporting and empowering women in the workplace (“Facebook’s Sandberg brings Lean In to younger women“).
As a part-time oncologist and father of four, I can say she’s ignoring 50% of the problem. As a father, I regularly experience innocent but discriminatory attitudes about fathers not quite being real parents — invitations for birthday parties sent only to my wife, classrooms requesting volunteers for the “class mom” vs. “class parent,” making airline reservations for my 18-month-old in my lap and being told that “sometimes children do better with their mother.”
As long as men are considered less able to man the home, women can’t reasonably be expected to break through the glass ceiling in the workplace. It is the same ceiling.
Mark Shumate; Roswell, Ga.
Thanks, Mark. The message that men don’t belong in the world of children as much as women – even as women are told they belong also in the world of work as much as men – can be insidious:
My granddaughter is eleven months old (as of July 2013). I spend a lot of time with her at her home, feeding her, burping her, rocking her to sleep (pure heaven!), and playing on the floor with her. She has more toys than I can count. Many if not most of them have speaking or singing voices. In the last month or so, I realized that all the voices are female. What message does that inculcate in baby boys starting at almost infancy? What does it tell grown men about their inclusion in the world of children — even as they are ordered to get out of the way of women’s inclusion in the world of work?
Here are some of my granddaughter’s favorite speaking and singing toys, all of which are gender neutral but feature female voices only:
- VTECH Rhyme & Discover Book
- VTECH Tiny Touch Phone
- Fisher-Price Laugh & Learn™ Love to Play Puppy™
- Fisher-Price Smart Screen Laptop
- VTECH 3-in-1 Smart Wheel
- VTECH Sit-to-Stand Learning Walker
Update April 27, 2014: My granddaughter now has a toy with a male voice: Sesame Street’s My First Story Reader.
Now consider: My granddaughter spends six to eight hours every week day at a daycare where the pre-school children range in ages from a few months to four or five years. All the daycare’s employees are female. This reinforces the message sent to boys that men don’t belong in the world of children. For another example of insidious bias against men in the world of children, see my commentary “In movies, dads not treated as equals to moms.”
Hannah Rosin, author of The End of Men and the Rise of Women, “may also overestimate women’s flexibility when it comes to men and male roles – even though she herself notes signs of such inflexibility. Lower-middle-class women tend to reject low-earning men as poor marriage material; high-earning women married to non-alpha males often end up resenting or despising their husbands. (Rosin’s chapter on female violence even includes a frightening example of such resentment escalating into abuse and then murder. Ironically, the woman’s defense tried to portray her as an abused wife unbearably stressed by her husband’s failings as a man.) Rosin herself admits being “startled” by the sight of a stay-at-home dad volunteering at her preschool. Perhaps the truth is not just that women are more flexible, but that both women and men are more flexible about norms of femininity than norms of masculinity.” -More by Cathy Young in Reason magazine
And another member of the “nurturing, non-violent” sex violates the stereotype: Video of woman hiring a hitman to kill her husband.